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On December 18, The Raleigh Forum hosted another brown bag lunch at HUB Raleigh. This time the topic was Networking 101, which has been one of the most requested sessions.

We brought in Derrick Minor, who serves as the Innovation and Entrepreneurship Manager for the City of Raleigh. We like to call him Mr. Networker because he knows just about everyone in the downtown entrepreneurship community.

Derrick gave us some guidelines for networking, but before he launched into the lists, he made sure to reiterate a few points. Networking is not about immediate benefit, it’s about building relationships. Don’t go into a networking event expecting to walk away with clients- go expecting to meet interesting people and form relationships that may be valuable down the road. That massage therapist you meet? She may end up connecting you with your next big client (just ask Derrick). Now on to those lists!

10 guidelines and 2 golden rules for networking Brown Bag Lunch Recap: Networking 101

Top 10 Guidelines for Networking

10. Research local networking events: Search on Eventbrite. Use Meetup. In the Triangle, try Social Carolina. Ask your contacts where they hang out.

9. Decide what type of event is the best fit for your business and schedule: When do “your people” network? Over breakfast, over coffee, over cocktails, or later in the evening? You can’t go to everything, so be selective with your time.

8. Find out who is attending and identify 3-5 who you want to meet: Search attendee lists (Eventbrite invites will often show the guest list) and find 3-5 people that you’ve heard of and would love to meet. Or do a quick Google search of names you don’t recognize and add them to your mental list if they look interesting!

7. Get involved by volunteering: Work the door- handle registration or pass out name tags. People have to interact with you! If you’re a nervous networker, having something to occupy you can prevent awkward conversations and give you an easy icebreaker. As Derrick points out, people will connect you with the cool event they’re attending, which has a positive psychological effect. But try to approach volunteering with a selfless attitude and don’t go into it expecting anything.

6. Utilize social media before, during, and after the event: Twitter, Twitter, Twitter icon smile Brown Bag Lunch Recap: Networking 101 Many events these days have a hashtag just for the event. Find it and use it! Search the hashtag before, during, and after to see who else is going or went. If you see someone interesting, tweet them to arrange a time and place to meet up during the event.

5. Don’t just hang out with your friends during events: Balance your time between making new connections and reinforcing current ones. Ask your friends to introduce you to new contacts. Peruse LinkedIn ahead of time to see if you have a connection to anyone you’re looking to meet- a warm introduction is better than just introducing yourself out of the blue (though don’t be afraid to do that too!). Also: I find that it’s better for me to pass on a networking event if I’m not in the mood to make small talk with strangers. Why waste my time and risk looking uninterested?

4. Don’t go with the “hand out as much business cards as possible” strategy: I’ve had a similar experience to Derrick: someone walked up to me and thrust their business card into my hand without saying a word. Whyyy? Avoid this strategy!

3. Introduce others (including those you have just met): Connect others, even if you’ve just met one or both of them. You’ll become known as a connector, which increases your social Klout clout. And a bonus? It’s a good way to get out of an awkward conversation icon smile Brown Bag Lunch Recap: Networking 101

2. Become a leader by creating your own networking event or workshop: Don’t see an event out there that meets your needs? Create your own! Just like I did with the Triangle blog group

1. Follow up is key: Set a brief email to everyone you meet to stay on their radar. If you have a pressing reason to set up a meeting, do so, but be mindful of your time. Perhaps a phone call would be sufficient?

The 2 Golden Rules of Networking

1. Be selfless, not selfish: Not “me, me, me.” Remember: networking is not a zero sum game.

2. Be authentic, be genuine, be yourself: Don’t be overly professional! People relate to real, genuine people.

And my own tip: Write down what you talked about with each person on the back of their business card. Later on, refer to these notes to remember what you spoke about. You can even follow up with the person with an interesting article that’s related to what you chatted about!

Want more of my tips? Come to my brown bag lunch on January 8 at 12pm!

Update: since being laid off, I have launched my own digital presence management company. I offer consulting and management for small businesses and individuals looking to establish or expand their online presences through social media, blogging, SEO, and online partnerships. For more on CMR Strategies, visit cmrstrategies.com.
whenonedoor I Got Laid Off from LivingSocial

It is with very mixed emotions that I write this post. On Wednesday I received a call from LivingSocial, letting me know that my position was being eliminated (along with about 399 other jobs). Effective almost immediately.

I felt and still feel a mix of things: sadness that I will no longer be with the company that I started with almost two years ago; sadness that I can’t maintain the projects I had been working on; and sadness that I won’t be able to represent the LivingSocial brand anymore. I feel nervousness as I head back out into the job search and sympathy for the other laid-off workers, many of whom may be in more difficult positions than me because of financial obligations or their families.

But I also feel gratitude to the company that let me move back to North Carolina, switch from being an intern to a full-time worker, and change departments to be in one that fit me better. I feel gratitude for the company that sent me to Raleigh and New York City for chaotic but fun-filled trips and trusted me enough to let me take over many aspects of the recruiting team’s social media. And I feel gratitude for the coworkers who sent me countless articles on how to improve my skills, taught me countless sourcing techniques, and supported my countless professional goals.

And perhaps most of all, I feel hope. I feel hope that I will end up in a career that makes me happy and in the meantime, I’ll find something (or somethings) that let me explore my passions.

I was hesitant to write this post, since being laid off is a very personal situation. I feel nervous that you, my readers, will think less of me. But in my everyday life, I work hard to cultivate relationships and build a network of contacts, both on and off-line, that I trust and value. It seems only fitting that I would let this support network in on such a big change in my life.

So I’d like to ask you for help! If you know of a job opportunity- either remote or in Raleigh- that you think might be suited for me, I would love to hear about it. My last position at LivingSocial was as a Junior Recruiting Coordinator, but I also have a strong interest in social media, professional development, cooking, blogging, event planning, women’s entrepreneurship, and more. If you would like a better understanding of my background, please feel free to look at my resume.

And as always, if you ever want to chat about professional development, career opportunities, or just grab a (gluten-free) beer with me, let me know icon smile I Got Laid Off from LivingSocial Thanks for your support!

Brown bag lunches are back at HUB Raleigh! Our brown bag lunches are hour-long skill-based sessions that are open to the community. They are designed around one topic and led by a local expert.
 
Brown bag lunches are a fantastic way to share your expertise and expand your personal and professional brand. We will promote your name and/or your company name and ask that you in turn promote the brown bag lunch to your networks through our Eventbrite link.
Brown bag lunches take place at HUB Raleigh at 12pm on Tuesdays. Currently, the open dates are Dec 11, Dec 18, Jan 15, Jan 29, Feb 12, and Feb 26.
 
Interested in leading any of the following presentations? Email us!

  • How to Write and Submit Press Releases
  • Twitter 101
  • Google Hacks & Tips
  • Business Law 101
  • SEO
  • How to Thrive in Collaborative Environment
  • Networking 101
  • Research 101
  • How to Incorporate Social Responsibility Into Your Business
  • Tools & Tips for Increasing Your Productivity
  • Personal Branding & Online Reputation Management
  • Stress Management

Or are you knowledgeable about another topic? We’re open to ideas!

I was recently contacted by a woman named Allison about an infographic related to female entrepreneurship. If you read my blog regularly, you know that this is a topic I’m very interested in (evidence and more evidence), so I was excited to see the image. As Allison pointed out, infographics help make a connection between visualization and learning. As a visual learner, I’m on board with that idea!

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And here are a few interesting articles related to female entrepreneurship. Happy weekend reading! 

I’ve been thinking recently about the factors that I value most in a job. Below are some factors that I take into consideration. For each one, I make sure to ask myself several questions, “How will this work?” “Does it matter to me?” and “How much does it matter to me?”

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Flexibility: Will you be able to take time off, set your own hours, and work from home occasionally? Can you work less than full-time? Can you pursue other projects on the side? To what extent do these factors affect your feelings about a potential workplace?

I value my flexibility as a virtual worker immensely. I love being able to work from home or Starbucks occasionally and take long weekends when I want, knowing I can make up my hours on weeknights or the following weekend. Most importantly, I love working part-time, owning a business on the side, and having time for my blog, Change the Triangle, and my social life.

Work/Life Balance: Along the same lines, are you expected to stay until 8 or 9pm or are you allowed to bolt at (or before) 5pm? Does the employer encourage you to have a healthy work/life balance or give your life over to the company? Either way, does it matter to you?

I don’t really have a work/life balance struggle since I work virtually. If I were to work full-time from an office, I would want the ability to maintain a healthy outside life. I feel like I lose a lot of my productivity when I’m forced to keep crazy hours and sacrifice healthy eating and exercising (that being said, I love the adrenaline of occasional late nights and firm deadlines).

Income and benefits: Will you be paid on a salary, hourly wage, or commission or a combination? Will you receive full benefits like a 401k and medical and dental? Do you have a back-up plan if you won’t receive benefits (like the ability to be on a family member’s plan)?

It’s important for me to have a solid income but if I were to pit financials against other factors, it would absolutely rank lower than some others.

Mental and emotional stimulation: Is the job mentally and emotionally challenging for you? Does it help you grow as a person? Again, are these priorities for you or are you fine taking a job that doesn’t propel you forward?

This is incredibly important for me. I can’t stay passionate for a job that doesn’t push me, challenge me, and help me grow. For me, there’s a time and place for doing work that you’re familiar and comfortable with, but tackling new exciting projects is a priority.

Physical surroundings: Think about the location and aesthetics of your workplace. Do you need a chic, elegant office or is a sparse cubicle fine with you? Does the office’s proximity to your home and local resources matter? If you will work virtually, will you work from your bed, a home office, Starbucks, a coworking space, a Regus office suite, or a combination?

My surroundings are somewhat important to me. I value natural lighting, comfortable chairs, and easy access to water, bathrooms, and coffee icon smile Determining Your Workplace Priorities For me, The Raleigh Forum is the perfect blend of comfy but chic. I don’t think I would feel comfortable in a super fancy office. A short commute is very important to me. Additionally, I like working in an office that has restaurants, coffee shops, and activities within walking distance. As a virtual worker, I also value having access to a coworking space because working from home 24/7 makes me stir-crazy!

Office setting: Do you want fun office amenities like a ping pong table and free beer on Fridays or are these superfluous for you? Do you prefer business formal, business casual, or Silicon Valley attire?

I love having a laid-back, fun office. When I worked at The Washington Diplomat, I felt more productive when I was able to take short darts breaks throughout the day! That being said, I don’t need crazy amenities like pony or helicopter rides icon smile Determining Your Workplace Priorities Business casual or office casual attire is the perfect fit for me- cute flats or kitten heels, a skirt or jeans, a cute top, and a blazer.

Coworkers & boss: How important is it for you to have good relationships with your coworkers and boss? Do you want them to be friends or just 9-5 acquaintances? Does their age, gender, and other factors matter to you?

Having solid relationships with my coworkers is important to me. I love feeling comfortable with my coworkers but I don’t expect my social life to revolve around them.

Autonomy: Along the same lines, does the job and your boss offer you autonomy and freedom? Will you make your own decisions or follow the instructions of a superior?

Autonomy is key for me. I feel most productive when I’m self-directed, passionate, and in control. That’s not to say I can’t take direction or I don’t value having a boss and coworkers that I can use as resources!

Security: In a rocky economy, job security is harder to come by. Are you comfortable with having a less secure job (like at a start-up) a or do you strive for a more secure career (tenure, anyone?)? What can you do to increase your job security (like signing a 2 year contract)?

I feel comfortable with the ambiguity of both owning my own business and working at a maturing start-up. For me, job security is a nice perk but not mandatory.

Company values & ethics: Is corporate social responsibility a part of the company’s mission? Do they do well by their direct and indirect stakeholders, including employees, the public, and the environment?

This is a big factor for me. I want to believe in the mission and values of the company that I work for. I strive to work for companies that not only do the right thing in the community but also internally (such as promoting a healthy work/life balance- see above).

What other priorities do you take into account? Which priorities are the most and least important to you when choosing a job?

Just a few months ago, I reconnected with the Nordgren family, who used to go to the Waldorf school with me back in first grade! I hadn’t seen any of them in many years, but I ran into Carl {the dad} at a downtown Raleigh networking event. He reconnected me with Krista Anne, who was in my class way back when. Krista mentioned that she and her sisters were starting a business and, just a few months later, it is blowing up! They were just featured on Fast Company Design, which demonstrates the potential of their idea!

the makery sister entrepreneurship: the makery nc

According to their website, “Combining the ideas of online sales, buying local, and the renewed passion for handmade goods, we created The Makery as a new way to build community-supported commerce and support our friends, neighbors, and new favorite artists.  Here’s how it will work: Each week, members will receive curated deals on a selection of limited edition art, apparel, and homewares, all lovingly handmade by one of that week’s featured local artists.When you purchase an item from The Makery, you will pay less than you would at a craft fair or on an artist’s Etsy site, and will also be exposed to new artists and pieces that have been carefully chosen as Makery Picks.To the artists, The Makery brings a large member base of potential customers, and also provides additional exposure through features on our blog and special, one-of-a-kind opportunities for VIP members.”

I am obviously incredibly biased since this is a former classmate + I love NC + I love sister entrepreneurship + I love buying local, but it’s seriously such a cool idea!

Follow them on Twitter and check out their website! To make a pledge on Kickstarter by this Saturday, click here!

P.S. My favorite part of the video: when Krista Anne says “Sarah is the writer, Brita is the artist, and I am…the funny one.” Haha!

It’s interesting for me to look at which blog posts of mine get the most traffic vs which ones are my favorite. There is some overlap between the two.  Part of my mission with this post is to bring to light some of my poor neglected posts that I think deserve a spotlight! I put my favorites in bold and added a few others below.

Some of my top posts (in order):

Some of my other favorite posts:

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100+ Google Tricks That Will Save You Time

9 Crazy Start-Up Ideas That Worked via Chris West

How one woman technologist single-handedly created thousands of jobs via Olivia Hayes

When is a start-up no longer a start-up?

9 Ways to Make Yourself Charming

Over It via Kathleen Fallon

Here are some funny, intriguing, and creative top 10 lists to start your weekend off on a good note:

10 Words for Intriguing Concepts via Merriam Webster

10 Insights on Rethinking Work via The99Percent.com

10 Things to Add to Your Bucket List via Mainstreet.com

The 10 Hottest Jewish Women Drake Can Take Home To His Momma via Bossip.com {wish I was on that list, he’s my favorite rapper}

10 Young Entrepreneur Blogs you Should be Following

Top 10 Kugel Recipes

My 10 Favorite Songs of the Week

Awhile back, my friend turned to me pityingly and stated, “That’s cute, Cristina still thinks everyone gets to do what they want for a living.”

I’m not so naive that I believe everyone gets to have a job they love. I’ve been on enough service trips, traveled to enough developing countries, met enough struggling people, seen the economy crash enough that I know the facts. Some individuals may always be working away in a job that isn’t their dream.

But there are those of us who do have the power to choose, so why not choose passion, dedication, and a love of Mondays?

Recently, I listened to someone dread the start of the week and mourn the loss of the weekend. I chimed in- in retrospect, unintentionally obnoxiously- that I loved the weekend too. But I also love Mondays. “Basically,” I stated chipperly, “I love life.”

As I wrote this post, I wondered if it made me sound pretentious and elitist. Should I advocate finding your passion when so many out there aren’t in a position to? And I came to a conclusion: yes. And if your passion is empowering others to find theirs? Even better.

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+Cristina Roman