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On December 18, The Raleigh Forum hosted another brown bag lunch at HUB Raleigh. This time the topic was Networking 101, which has been one of the most requested sessions.

We brought in Derrick Minor, who serves as the Innovation and Entrepreneurship Manager for the City of Raleigh. We like to call him Mr. Networker because he knows just about everyone in the downtown entrepreneurship community.

Derrick gave us some guidelines for networking, but before he launched into the lists, he made sure to reiterate a few points. Networking is not about immediate benefit, it’s about building relationships. Don’t go into a networking event expecting to walk away with clients- go expecting to meet interesting people and form relationships that may be valuable down the road. That massage therapist you meet? She may end up connecting you with your next big client (just ask Derrick). Now on to those lists!

10 guidelines and 2 golden rules for networking Brown Bag Lunch Recap: Networking 101

Top 10 Guidelines for Networking

10. Research local networking events: Search on Eventbrite. Use Meetup. In the Triangle, try Social Carolina. Ask your contacts where they hang out.

9. Decide what type of event is the best fit for your business and schedule: When do “your people” network? Over breakfast, over coffee, over cocktails, or later in the evening? You can’t go to everything, so be selective with your time.

8. Find out who is attending and identify 3-5 who you want to meet: Search attendee lists (Eventbrite invites will often show the guest list) and find 3-5 people that you’ve heard of and would love to meet. Or do a quick Google search of names you don’t recognize and add them to your mental list if they look interesting!

7. Get involved by volunteering: Work the door- handle registration or pass out name tags. People have to interact with you! If you’re a nervous networker, having something to occupy you can prevent awkward conversations and give you an easy icebreaker. As Derrick points out, people will connect you with the cool event they’re attending, which has a positive psychological effect. But try to approach volunteering with a selfless attitude and don’t go into it expecting anything.

6. Utilize social media before, during, and after the event: Twitter, Twitter, Twitter icon smile Brown Bag Lunch Recap: Networking 101 Many events these days have a hashtag just for the event. Find it and use it! Search the hashtag before, during, and after to see who else is going or went. If you see someone interesting, tweet them to arrange a time and place to meet up during the event.

5. Don’t just hang out with your friends during events: Balance your time between making new connections and reinforcing current ones. Ask your friends to introduce you to new contacts. Peruse LinkedIn ahead of time to see if you have a connection to anyone you’re looking to meet- a warm introduction is better than just introducing yourself out of the blue (though don’t be afraid to do that too!). Also: I find that it’s better for me to pass on a networking event if I’m not in the mood to make small talk with strangers. Why waste my time and risk looking uninterested?

4. Don’t go with the “hand out as much business cards as possible” strategy: I’ve had a similar experience to Derrick: someone walked up to me and thrust their business card into my hand without saying a word. Whyyy? Avoid this strategy!

3. Introduce others (including those you have just met): Connect others, even if you’ve just met one or both of them. You’ll become known as a connector, which increases your social Klout clout. And a bonus? It’s a good way to get out of an awkward conversation icon smile Brown Bag Lunch Recap: Networking 101

2. Become a leader by creating your own networking event or workshop: Don’t see an event out there that meets your needs? Create your own! Just like I did with the Triangle blog group

1. Follow up is key: Set a brief email to everyone you meet to stay on their radar. If you have a pressing reason to set up a meeting, do so, but be mindful of your time. Perhaps a phone call would be sufficient?

The 2 Golden Rules of Networking

1. Be selfless, not selfish: Not “me, me, me.” Remember: networking is not a zero sum game.

2. Be authentic, be genuine, be yourself: Don’t be overly professional! People relate to real, genuine people.

And my own tip: Write down what you talked about with each person on the back of their business card. Later on, refer to these notes to remember what you spoke about. You can even follow up with the person with an interesting article that’s related to what you chatted about!

Want more of my tips? Come to my brown bag lunch on January 8 at 12pm!

On January 8, The Raleigh Forum will be hosting another brown bag lunch at HUB Raleigh and I’m leading it! I’ll be discussing tips and tools for increasing your productivity online, which is perfect, because I am a self-proclaimed productivity junkie!

brown bag lunch tips and tools Brown Bag Lunch: Tips & Tools for Increasing Your Productivity Online

Want to know how to keep up with your contacts more efficiently? Or make the most of your Gmail account? How about keep track of everything you read? This brown bag will provide you with tips, tricks, and tools for becoming an online whiz.

Brown Bag Lunch Tickets!

Brown bag lunches are back at HUB Raleigh! Our brown bag lunches are hour-long skill-based sessions that are open to the community. They are designed around one topic and led by a local expert.
 
Brown bag lunches are a fantastic way to share your expertise and expand your personal and professional brand. We will promote your name and/or your company name and ask that you in turn promote the brown bag lunch to your networks through our Eventbrite link.
Brown bag lunches take place at HUB Raleigh at 12pm on Tuesdays. Currently, the open dates are Dec 11, Dec 18, Jan 15, Jan 29, Feb 12, and Feb 26.
 
Interested in leading any of the following presentations? Email us!

  • How to Write and Submit Press Releases
  • Twitter 101
  • Google Hacks & Tips
  • Business Law 101
  • SEO
  • How to Thrive in Collaborative Environment
  • Networking 101
  • Research 101
  • How to Incorporate Social Responsibility Into Your Business
  • Tools & Tips for Increasing Your Productivity
  • Personal Branding & Online Reputation Management
  • Stress Management

Or are you knowledgeable about another topic? We’re open to ideas!

On Friday, August 31st, we cleaned out the remaining items from 208 S Wilmington St and turned our keys into the leasing office. The emotions of the transition hit us at different times.

Sara Rose felt it on Friday afternoon as we surveyed the empty space and thought back on the excitement we felt as we walked into the space for the first time as coworking space owners.

Cristina felt it on Saturday morning, as the reality sunk in that we could no longer say we owned a downtown coworking space.

The first time we walked into the space in May of 2011, it was unfinished but we could see its potential instantly. In our minds, we plotted where the white desks and comfy chairs would go, where we would put the kitchenette area, and which of the walls would be painted with whiteboard paint. We knew that if we were going to run a coworking space, it had to be out of this office.

We vividly remember the excitement of getting our keys, seeing the space painted green, and watching as our first coworker, Heather Allen, signed her coworking contract.

We remember realizing that our leasing document read “Roman-Empire” because we, Roman Co LLC, were renting space from Empire Properties.

We remember painting the whiteboard wall the night before we opened and laughing as Sara Rose’s head accidentally bumped the wet paint (her friends thought she was going grey but thankfully it’s back to normal now).

We remember our “Bring a Screwdriver, Get a Screwdriver” party, where friends and coworkers brought us a Philips head screwdriver, helped us assemble our furniture, and were rewarded with mimosas (almost like a screwdriver!).

We remember our open coworking day, where every seat in the house was filled. And wouldn’t you know, our fire alarm went off on our most crowded day.

We remember the ongoing battle over the Foursquare mayorship, which was awarded to J King White but ultimately stolen by Sara Rose.

We remember filming the #TRFLovesIt music video- a week and a half of lyric brainstorming, filming, and editing with Tyler Helikson, Heather Allen, J King White, Jon Leonardo, Derrick Minor, Corey Woodard, Bo Hargrove, Elisabeth Holby, and Travis Hager. It took Sara Rose and Cristina about 20 takes for their 20 second segment of the video, but the blooper reel is well worth the wasted time (though Tyler may not agree!).

We remember practicing our British accents with our token international coworker, David. We hope he still owns the Tea and Crumpets book we bought for him because we still have the postcards he mailed to us during his travels abroad.

We remember laughing over the hilarious and vulgar paragraph that Brad emailed to us when we asked our coworkers to submit bios. We’ll also never forget laughing of the pictures of him as a teenager or listening to his rap songs and quoting the lyrics to him in random conversations.

We’ll remember cracking up with Jamey and his wife about defining the relationship talks and telling Jamey we were leaving him in charge of the space when he was the only one there.

We remember countless visits to Wilmoore Cafe for coffee, Raleigh Times for PBR and pork nachos, and Spize Cafe to pick up brown bag lunches. We’ll always celebrating our six month anniversary happy hour at The Hive with several of our coworkers and friends.

And despite the alcohol that flowed, we’ll certainly never forget our red carpet themed Raleighwood party, our bigger-than-anticipated New Year’s Eve party (or the next day clean-up!), and our beer pong networking event.

We’ll never forget celebrating Sara Rose’s November birthday, complete with pumpkin whoopie pies, during a brown bag lunch or celebrating Cristina’s July birthday with charades one evening.

We’ll never forget watching Heather nap sitting upright at her desk with her turtleneck pulled over her face or joking that Cristina was the den mother for the 10 rowdy guys working from the space.

We’ll never forget Friday at 5, The Walter Lane Project, or meeting the many individuals who walked through our doors for a visit, a day pass, or an event.

We’ll never forget spinning in the desk chairs and then attempting to walk, nor will we forget the hilarity and strangeness that ensues when you sell 12 chairs and 12 desks to strangers on Craigslist.

These moments and many more made the past year an incredible one. We learned so much about ourselves and running a small business. We want to thank everyone who made it a tremendous year and stuck by our sides as as we learned the ins and outs of operating a coworking space.

We learned, we laughed, we cried, and oh yes- we worked too icon smile A Year of Forum Memories

We know working with HUB Raleigh will bring its own crazy, funny, and bittersweet moments with it, so we’re excited for what we call our “new year.”

I just got back from a press conference with the mayor and I am so excited to write this post as the adrenaline dies down a bit!

Remember last May when I blogged about sister entrepreneurship? Later in May, my sister and I started discussing the possibility of opening a coworking space. We signed a lease and got our keys to the space at the beginning of August. We opened in September and met some of the coolest coworkers we could have imagined. And this May, we were approached about the possibility of collaborating in some capacity with a new coworking space. Given that our one year anniversary was approaching, we figured it was an ideal time to reassess our model and examine our strengths and limitations. After a lot of thought, we decided that we felt it was the right time for a big change.

And now it’s official! On Monday, my sister and I signed papers to join forces with HUB Raleigh, an awesome coworking space that is opening on September 15. We will be bringing our community to the new space, promoting The HUB through marketing initiatives, and running community-based events (remember our awesome Raleighwood party?!).

The timing of meeting the founders was strangely coincidental, but we believe that everything happens for a reason. We are so excited about the change and our new roles; it feels like the right move. Best of all, we’ll both be able to continue to balance our other jobs with our continued interest in promoting collaboration, community, and entrepreneurship in Raleigh.

Do you ever wonder if the people behind the blogs you read really disclose everything about their lives? I’d wager that nobody does completely. I was unable to tell you all about this transition (partly because we were instructed to keep it on the down low, but also because I wouldn’t want to announce something and then have it not pan out), but I’m glad it can be out in the open now!

I will do a more complete post about the space and its amenities (with pictures and the application in case you’re interested in joining!) in the next day or two, but in the meantime, check out HUB Raleigh on the following platforms:

Email // Website // Twitter // Facebook // Email List

I pretty much relate to every word in this post by Gen Y Girl, entitled “You Don’t Have to Have It All Figured Out.” Can’t believe it’s been almost a year since I graduated! P.S. I think Kayla and I could be good friends if we lived in the same city icon smile link roundup for the week!

I love the Oprah quote at the end of Elle’s post on being thankful.

Here’s a pretty crazy True Story from Yes and Yes: My Mom Made Me Smuggle Drugs.

I need to study these 6 Pro Tips for Tasting Wine before my next field trip to The Wine Feed!

Going on a summer vacation soon? Read these tips for hitting the ground running when you get back home.

And another LifeHacker helpful hint: use Mason jar lids as egg rings!

And in very important life debates: apparently wooden cutting boards are better than plastic ones. Which means I need to learn how clean my wooden one!

Apparently coworking originated at Regus Office Suites..but not in the way they think.

My roommate just told me about an awesome browser app called Invisible Hand. If you’re online shopping, it will show a discreet pop-up bar if it finds a better price on the same product on another site. Amazing for consumers {though probably not for many e-commerce retailers}.

  • A Night in Raleighwood party. Step-and-repeat, twinkly lights, red carpet, beautiful dresses, oh my!
  • First trip to David’s Dumplings. David greeted us at the hostess stand; he was so welcoming! We got free samplers of carrot ginger soup (amaaazing), half-fried dumplings, ginger salad. For our entrees, Sara got the ginger eggplant (yum!) and I got pho (it came out with chicken the first time, so they sent it back and had David remake it). I also ordered a pot of the green tea, which I love on winter evenings. We will definitely be going back there because of the warm service, reasonable prices, and delicious food.
  • Cruise planning session with the girls at Raleigh Times. We planned our theme nights and back stories for prank night icon smile the week in review + deep epiphanies
  • A few cool people dropping into the office- one is brand new to Raleigh, so I shared a few of my Raleigh blog posts with him icon smile the week in review + deep epiphanies
  • Change the Triangle volunteer event with the Inter-Faith Food Shuttle. I didn’t get to meet any of the recipients of the food because I was the official delegator for our shift. Interestingly, Sara loves the hands-on aspect of volunteering, but I’ve always loved directing (like back when I was the Student Coordinator for a freshmen volunteer program at GW called CBC). Month after month, I’m blown away by the sheer positivity and warmness of the CTT volunteers; such an amazing vibe. P.S. At the social event, I went head-to-head with one of the guys on a hot sauce eating contest. I’ll give you one guess for who mopped up that competition icon wink the week in review + deep epiphanies

I had two epiphanies this week that I wanted to share:

1) While I enjoy our social events at The Raleigh Forum, what I really love is the day-to-day moments  of coworking {which we talk about here}. It’s seeing the first person walk into the office on Monday morning and recapping our weekends. It’s going with Heather to grab Starbucks and catch up on Raleigh happenings. It’s sitting across from my sister while doing work. It’s seeing Cortney’s tweets, knowing that she learned how to use Twitter at our brown bag lunch. Like we say in the video above, it’s these little moments that make it a coworking space, not just a shared office space.

2) As you see through reading my blog, I experience tons of highs but also stressful periods, like trouble with Maddie, pressure at work, fights with my sister {I know, shocker, we fight every once in awhile haha}, or bigger issues. Sometimes I envy people who don’t seem to experience extremely stressful situations, but I realize this often goes hand-in-hand with not experiencing amazingly positive experiences as well. Personally, I would rather feel stress and euphoria then live life on a flat line.

Deep, right? icon smile the week in review + deep epiphanies

{Cross-posted from The Raleigh Forum blog}

Every ticket to A Night in Raleighwood includes one raffle ticket. Attendees will be able to choose which raffle to enter. Additional tickets can be purchased at the event for $2.

Thank you so much to all the local businesses who graciously donated raffle prizes for our party!

We will also have a raffle for a one month full-time membership to The Raleigh Forum. Tickets for this raffle are $10.

 Giveaway Winner

Congrats to Myra Huffman, who won the free ticket to A Night in Raleighwood! Her suggestion for an awards category was “Best in Local Art.”

Thank you to everyone who participated in the giveaway. Keep visiting for more fun rewards icon smile Giveaway Winner

This week raced by! It’s been great but I’m excited for this weekend- skiing at Wintergreen!
Recap:
  • Ski weekend in VA- we had such a fun time hanging out with our stepdad. We didn’t actually ski but we played Wii, drank hot chocolate, snow tubed…and joked around the whole time, of course!
  • Bachelor Night with the girls- it’s fun watching with a group because everyone has snarky commentary to add icon smile the week in review
  • Downtown Raleigh in Review event {the proceeds went to Change the Triangle}, followed by trivia with a random but super fun mix of friends. We dominated one of the rounds but came in fourth overall icon sad the week in review
  • Tons of new faces at The Forum
  • Devoured chicken tacos from Raleigh Times and the pork loin {rice} noodle salad from Spize
  • Won the Mayorship on Foursquare of The  Raleigh Forum 2.0 {our temporary space}. Winning!
  • Brown Bag Lunch with Erica on Twitter 101. We had about 12 people in attendance, maybe of whom didn’t have a Twitter account yet. The session was very informative for them- one woman said it was enlightening and changed her perspective on this form of new media icon smile the week in review
  • Sent out an email to arrange a get together for North Carolina-based LivingSocial employees. It’s important to have a local network of coworkers when you work remotely!
  • Chatted with Sara about our next blog group event {and welcomed a new member!}
  • Two early morning weight lifting sessions + one uber-relaxing yoga class {we have a group chat for a bunch of girls who are members of the YMCA. If you’re a member and want gym buddies, contact me!}
And, most exciting of all this week: planning for A Night in Raleighwood!
  • Yelp is now a sponsor
  • We’re having a glam booth {Melissa from The Head 2 Toe Boutique is running it}
  • Still searching for a photographer for the event; if you know of someone, please let me know icon smile the week in review
  • Received our step-and-repeat in the mail!
  • Sold tons of tickets
  • Received lots of entries and great feedback on my giveaway {enter here!}

P.S. Just logged into my work account and saw that today is my one year anniversary at LivingSocial! I’m practically a veteran icon smile the week in review

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+Cristina Roman